Toxicity, Criticism and Psychology 101

I'm not a fan of toxicity or criticism and I used to have a major anger management issue before I learned martial arts. I often diffuse the frustration of criticism by boiling it down to the psychology of the fragile person doing the criticizing. It always comes down to one of two things.

 1.) They perceive you as a threat to their own position. They know that you can do something better than than themselves or have some value greater than theirs and jealousy kicks in. They try to take you down a notch by fabricating or constructing things that you have done in error while in the eyes of others. They will refuse to be constructive in your case and won't support any positive accomplishments.

 2.) They perceive you as weak and feel they can further assert dominance over you. It can be something you've done by mistake or that you haven't pushed back when pushed.

The solution is always to play it cool but know when to turn up the heat. You can often find a way to show how they are a valued asset as a team member instead of competition, or you can rip them a new asshole and show them why you've accomplished what you've accomplished and that they haven't even done as much as you have.

These are some of the things that run through my own mind every time I hear criticism in conversations:

Social Media and misinformation in the 2020's is the most dangerous weapon the world has ever seen in our entire human history. It is absolutely mind-fuckingly ridiculous how fake news, unproven opinions and misinformation can somehow outweigh and overrule scientific, truthful facts.

We are in a new digital age. The internet can be amazing but it can also be filled with toxic people. Trolls and whiney complainers are too common. Just remember this saying "those that mind, don't matter, and those that matter, don't mind".

There are people out there who only want to undermine you. Just know that they are usually less capable of doing what you can do. It usually means the only way they can falsely establish importance over you is to demean you in front of others or talk behind your back. Challenge them to do it better in solo competition, and then do it better than they can. Win. Tarnish their reputation instead.

If the comment is negative without even being just a little constructive, the only thing that I will hear are farts and plops of shit coming out of an asshole.

The truth about human psychology is that everyone's a critic until they have to do the very exact work that they are criticizing. STFU already. Hypocrites are insignificant. Be constructive or GTFO.

Criticizing makes people feel big or important. That's why they do it because they are insignificant while trying to be significant.

Just because you like to offend people doesn't mean that YOU are right. If you are proud of being an asshole, you are just proving to everyone that you are a feeble attention whore.

Oh wah. Underestimation is a bitch isn't it. I bet it makes you mad that what you said about me isn't true.

Sorry this is a team effort. Stop complaining about how I do it. If you don't like the way I do it, then feel free to do it yourself. When you attempt to do it ,I will gladly aggravate you right back.

Either way, if you are criticizing in a non-constructive way without a comment on how to improve something, I already automatically know that you've lost. That is textbook loser behaviour.